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Life Coaching Lessons # 1 – What if Your Life was Over Tomorrow?

Pondering the end of your life’s journey no doubt brings forth all kinds of feelings: fear, denial, sadness, and maybe even remorse.

Regardless of the emotions you may feel, you can be sure of one thing: we all will eventually leave this life. No matter what you believe about what happens once you pass, the fact is you’ll no longer be physically present on this earth.

So, how can you deepen your experience of life to get the most from it? One way is to think about the last days of your life now and what you’ll be able to say about your life as you near your journey’s end.

For just a few minutes, cast aside your opinion that thinking about the end of your journey is “morbid.” Instead, consider it an opportunity to enrich your current existence in ways you can’t imagine. What would you like to be able to say about your life?

Consider these statements:

1. I was a good parent. Ask yourself right now, “How am I doing as a parent?” If my life ended tomorrow, could I make this statement truthfully?

2. I worked hard. If you know you work as hard as you can at whatever you do, you can be assured about this one.

3. I treated other people how I wanted to be treated. Do you follow the golden rule to, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?”

4. I knew when to step in to help someone and recognized the times it would be helpful for me to stay out of it. Do you see yourself as helpful to others? Do you “overdo” it and take on other people’s challenges or try to “fix” them and their lives?

5. I was patient and kind toward everyone. Reflect on how you currently treat others. Decide for yourself whether you’d like to make any adjustments in how you deal with those around you.

6. I was a great son or daughter. How do you define being a great son/daughter? Do you fit your own definition?

7. People could count on me. Think about whether you’ve been dependable in your work, social relationships, and family relationships. You have time now to make changes if you want to set your sights a bit higher.

8. I meant what I said and said what I meant. This statement is about communicating honestly with others about your thoughts and feelings.

9. I lived each day as if it were my last. You’ve heard the expression to “Live life to its fullest.” Do you do that? Or do you get hung up in the less-important details of life? What can you do to change how you feel about each day?

10. I did something with my life that mattered. Whatever your life’s goals are, hopefully, you’re fulfilling them. If you’re not, make a plan and start working toward them today. As long as it matters to you, it’s important; it matters.

Take some time to reflect on who you are and how you’re living. Are you living the life you want, accomplishing and working toward achieving your chosen goals?

If not, you have the power right now to change your life’s direction to live out the existence you truly desire. Then, if your life was to come to an end tomorrow, you would have experienced a life of your own choosing. It’s time to start being the person you wish and living life on your own terms.

Everything is possible.

I know that the universe is vaster than anyone can comprehend. This means that there are more possibilities available to me at any moment than I could ever count. This means that anything is possible for me.

I accomplish great things in my life and know I can enjoy even greater achievements. The key is recognizing that anything is possible.

I can achieve whatever I want.
I can have what I desire.
I can choose any career that pleases me.
Everything is possible.

I can create. I can possess. I can imagine. I can see so many possibilities and know that they are within my reach.

When I am struggling for a solution, I remember that everything is possible. When I remember that, I open myself up to discovering the solution I seek.

I remember the times in the past when I found a brilliant solution to a challenge. I find strength in those memories. They encourage me to seek new solutions now.

I remember that learning to walk and talk is much more challenging than anything else I could ever want to accomplish. I learned how to walk and talk, so everything else is also possible.

Today, I allow myself to be open to new opportunities and possibilities. I am free of believing that my options are limited. I know that an elegant solution exists. I know in my heart that everything is possible.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. In what areas of my life do I feel confined and out of options?
2. Can I allow myself to believe that everything is possible?
3. How would my life and perspective change if I believed that everything is possible?

I am free of the past.

I live my life in the present.

The past is irrelevant today. All I am capable of remembering is just my interpretation of the past. So the present is my reality and I release myself from the past.

I consciously focus on the present. I accomplish this by only putting my mental energy into what I am doing at the moment. There is much beauty all around me, and I miss out on all of it if I allow the past to encroach on the present.

Even the most mundane tasks can be enjoyable if I pay attention and focus. I have the presence and self-control to stay in the here and now.

By concentrating on my present, I relieve myself of a tremendous mental burden. I am light and free when I live in the present.

I understand the choices and mistakes of my past mean nothing now. I am a better and smarter person from learning from those mistakes.

I can release the past and move on with my wonderful life. Anything is possible. My past is separate from my present and future. My life and all that matters are right here and now.

Today, I let go of everything from the past that fails to serve me in a positive way. I appreciate my present and all that it entails. I am free of my past.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are some things from the past I should let go?
2. What is stopping me from letting go of these things?
3. What could I let go of right now?

I enjoy being unique.

The fact that I am the only person on earth with my very own “mix” of qualities brings me great joy. No one else walks just like me or thinks the same things I do. I am unique. The wonder of being my own person amazes me.

I love certain things about my personality. I have a good sense of humor. I am a hard worker. I do what I say I am going to do. The way I approach life is impacted by these personal characteristics and I can express myself through my own custom set of choices and actions.

It gives me great solace to know that others accept me for who I am.

Even though I have an unmatched sense of self, I am also in pursuit of self-improvement. Still, it is wonderful to be an individual. Being my own person enables me to live the life I desire.

Communicating with others allows me to experience their individuality and to also share a part of myself. As I reflect on these exchanges with others, I realize the pride and satisfaction I feel regarding my uniqueness. I am glad to be me.

Today, I intend to reflect on all of my personal qualities, especially those I am most proud of. Acknowledging who I am as an individual contributes to my overall happiness and compels me to embrace life with more passion.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How do I feel about myself as an individual? Do I enjoy being my own person?
2. Which personal qualities am I the most proud of? Why?
3. What can I do to embrace my idiosyncrasies?

Life Coaching Lessons # 2 – What Really Matters – Identify Your Life Lessons

Life is a fascinating journey that provides many twists, turns, and surprises. You can’t always predict which way your life will go. Sometimes, you might want to sit back and survey what’s important to you and what you’ve learned so far.

Reflecting on what you know to be true about life can actually help you live a rewarding existence and keep enjoying the best parts of life.

What are the life lessons you’ve learned so far? Listed below are some commonly identified life lessons. If you haven’t learned these lessons yet, maybe reading about them will cultivate your thoughts about what you have learned. Plus, you’ll expose your mind to these ideas and if you choose, you can incorporate these important concepts into your own life lesson repertoire.

1. Recognize and cope with your own feelings. Learning this lesson early in life will prevent you from making many mistakes in terms of your choices and relationships. Take time to label what you’re feeling and learn how to express and cope with your emotions positively. Learning this life lesson will enrich your existence.

2. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Somebody said this phrase a long time ago and it really caught on. Learn to tell the difference between something that really matters to you and something that, in the scheme of things, will not affect your life in any dramatic or real way.

3. Take care of your health and appearance. Whether you like it or not, the health decisions you make each day have a profound impact on the kind of life you’ll experience in the present and future. And those decisions directly affect your personal appearance.

4. Respect others. You don’t have to like all the people you meet and you certainly don’t have to make friends with them. But if you respect everyone, your own life will likely be easier and more enjoyable. Although you might not feel respected by someone, you can’t go wrong in respecting them anyway.

5. Learn to delay your own gratification. Whether it’s putting your opinions out there, imbibing in alcohol, wanting to buy yourself the latest expensive toy, or just insisting on getting your own way about something, don’t expect or demand that your needs be met immediately,

* Life doesn’t always pay off right away so it’s wise to be able to delay your own gratification. This life lesson can be a life-long goal that you work on each day to accomplish.

6. Keep your mind open and your mouth closed. When you’re open to accepting new people, places, and things, your possibilities are endless. Rather than disagree or criticize something you don’t understand, try to expand your mind to the new concept and take it all in. Who knows, it might become your next favorite thing.

7. When it’s all over, only love matters. A lesson that most of us don’t learn until very late in our lives is that the place you worked, the money you made, and the “toys” you collected don’t add up to much as you near life’s end. What does matter is that you’ve loved and been loved. Everything else falls away.

Your life lessons might look quite different from this list. The most important point is that you identify the deepest, most meaningful lessons you’ve learned about life. When you recognize what really matters to you, you’ll live each day consciously and full of purpose.

Persistence is important to me.

Persistence is one of my most positive character traits because it enables me to be the best person I can be.

Being persistent means I gather my strength to keep doing something until I succeed. For me, it is okay if accomplishing a task requires me to do it 2 times or 12 times. I keep at it until I produce the results I desire.

As I think about persistence, I realize it is important to all aspects in my life, like my work, home life, and personal relationships.

At work, I find that persistence pays off, literally. I persist until I complete each work project in the best way I know how. For my excellent service to my company, I am rewarded handsomely.

At home, tasks seem never-ending. But my capacity for persistence is strong. I follow through with getting home tasks done.

In managing my personal relationships, sometimes I must persist in order to enjoy the special emotional connections I have with others. I support their needs and bring them encouragement and joy, even in challenging times.

I find persistence to be integral to living a quality life that provides me feelings of happiness and accomplishment.

Today, I intend to focus on persistence. I know I can persist to achieve the results I want. Whether I am concentrating on my work, home, or relationships, I realize that persistence is the key to my continued success. Because I deserve to live a wonderful life, I can persist in my efforts to accomplish all the great things I desire.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How important is persistence to me?
2. Am I persistent in everything I do: work, home, and relationships?
3. What strategies can I put into place to ensure I use persistence to my best advantage?

I naturally make decisions that are good for me.

I know that my life is the ultimate reflection of my choices, so I make decisions with positive benefits in mind.

When I am faced with multiple options, I take the time I need to make wise decisions. I weigh the pros and cons before making a choice.

I am aware of what is important to me. I know the direction I want my life to take. My choices support those two things. When I keep my priorities in mind, decisions are easy to make.

Good decisions are practically automatic because of my solid foundation in my beliefs. My beliefs remove all confusion and doubt from my decision-making process.

I am certain about who I am and what I want. I have goals.

If I do make an unwise choice, I carefully examine my decision to determine the source of my error. I avoid making the same mistake twice. This method of constant improvement all but assures that I make choices in the future that benefit me and support my goals.

Today, I plan to move my life forward by making a big decision that seems to be stalling me. I trust that I can make a great decision because I naturally make choices that are good for me.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What positive decisions have I made recently?
2. Have I made some poor decisions that didn’t benefit me?
3. What can I learn from my past decisions?

Life Coaching Lessons # 3 – Yes You Can! Energize Your Life with Positive Thinking

Have you ever really opened your mind to the valuable impact that positive thinking can have on your day-to-day life?

When you develop a truly positive mindset, you set yourself up for a happier and more fulfilling life. With the stressful and hectic pace of our lives today, a more joyful existence is certain to be a welcome change!

It might take some practice to change your negative thought patterns into positive ideas that serve you better, but you can do it!

Apply these strategies now to invigorate your life every day:

1. Tell yourself you can do it. Sometimes, a simple thought that you repeat over and over again can get you through a grueling or challenging experience. “I can do it, I can do it, I can do it” is a great mantra to keep you striving for the excellence you desire.

2. Think of yourself as strong. When you’re engaging in physical activity, think to yourself, “I am strong. I can do anything. I can finish this job because of my strength.”

3. Write what’s good about you. Even though it may feel a bit strange to do it, get a pen and paper and start listing your positive attributes. Do some bragging about yourself.

4. Acknowledge that you will do something. Rather than being disappointed about something you didn’t do well, vow you’ll work to achieve it in the future. Use the words, “I am.”

* Notice that you’re not saying, “I’m going to try” or “I might give it a go.” You’re stating, “I am” following through. It’s positive and affirmative. Practice thinking and speaking in these terms. The more definitive you can be, the more likely your life will advance in positive ways.

5. Jog around the block. How long has it been since you used your body’s core to walk fast, jog, or run? You’ll feel so invigorated and accomplished when you get done. Of course, take heed of your body’s health and your doctor’s advice on exercise before attempting this one.

* If you can’t jog for very long, jog while you’re counting to 15 under your breath. Then walk for a couple of minutes before jogging again for a count of 15. When you’re done, you’ll feel spent in a positive way, because you really did something.

6. Set aside time each day to work toward your most important goal. No matter what your goal is, you’ll feel psyched if you do one thing to work toward it every single day. It will give your day a positive lift. Try it and see.

* For example, if your goal is to get a new job, get a spiral notebook and jot down each day (with the date) what you did to get a job. Maybe you made a call. Maybe you established a contact on the internet. Maybe you e-mailed a headhunter. Just do 1 thing every day to achieve your goal.

7. Have a sense of humor. If you ordered a new bed and it doesn’t fit in the room when the delivery guys bring it, try to laugh about it. Recognize it’s not an unsolvable issue-you can return the bed and shop for another one. Smile and say that tomorrow is another day to get it right.

8. Tell yourself you can handle it if something doesn’t work out. Being positive means you’ll land on your feet, regardless of what happens. You’ll get through it. When you truly know this and live life like you believe it, you’ll be one of the most positive people alive.

When you begin to re-focus your life toward positivity, you’ll discover a passion for life you’ve never before experienced. You’ll bring vim and vigor to your life each day through practicing these positive methods and mantras.

Aging well is a priority for me.

Each day, I notice how the people closest to me are aging. When I see them struggling to rise out of a chair or walk a short distance, I remind myself about the kind of life I am striving to live as I age. Aging well is a priority for me.

I make it a point to live a lifestyle that is healthful and serene. I know that as each day goes by, my physical condition changes. As I mature, I make healthy choices. I am as active as I can be.

To live a fulfilling, enriching, and active life, I eat healthy and nutritious foods, like fruits and vegetables. I avoid fried foods and foods high in sugar, white flour, and fats. I also engage in daily exercise. I avoid sitting on the couch for any lengthy period of time.

While others might get bored with their exercise routine, I find my exercise regimen fun because it changes every day.

I vary my work-outs from vigorous walks, to lengthy bike rides, to a jog in the local park. I take pride in my physical strength. I lift weights to attain definition in my arms and legs and to keep my muscles working well for me as I mature.

Today, I plan to take a look at my home to ensure I have whatever I need to continue to age well. I can set up my home to live the healthiest lifestyle possible by stocking only healthy foods and maintaining varied options for exercise.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. As I age, how do I want my life to be? Is aging well truly a priority for me right now?
2. What can I change in my home to help me age well?
3. How can I alter my behavior to ensure that I am doing everything possible to age well?

Forgiving makes me feel light and free.

Forgiveness is a gift I give myself. By forgiving others, I set myself free and can move on with my life. I am a good and forgiving person. When I forgive, I am being strong and making my own life easier.

While many people might struggle to forgive others, I find it very easy. I always feel better after forgiving others. Once I forgive someone, I am free of the pain and disappointment. The transgression is a thing of the past.

I find that forgiving others becomes easier as I get older. Age and wisdom make it clearer to me that forgiveness is the smart solution. Forgiveness is free and provides so much. It is one of the great bargains in the universe.

I may struggle occasionally to forgive someone. But once I realize that I am only hurting myself in the process of holding on to that anger, I find it easy to forgive. I immediately feel better, freer, and lighter.

When my heart is light, life is more enjoyable. I am more open to the positive aspects of life. I choose to be light and free of anger.

I understand that my ability to forgive can always grow stronger so I work on it constantly. I am able to forgive most transgressions quickly and easily. Others may take a little more work, but I always get there.

Today, I am forgiving everyone. I am even forgiving myself. Forgiving makes me light and free; I choose to forgive and forget.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What resentments from the past am I holding on to?
2. What could I forgive right now?
3. Am I good at forgiving others? If not, why? How can I get better at forgiving?

Life Coaching Lessons # 4 – Overcoming the Darkness in Your Life and Replacing it With Joy

There are times in life when something bad happens to create the most profound darkness you’ve ever experienced. It takes a toll on you, and you feel like you’ll never overcome it. But there’s also the belief that the only way to experience true joy is to first experience darkness.

These emotions and experiences from opposite ends of the spectrum work hand in hand to give you real appreciation of the positive side of life. But just how does one overcome darkness and replace it with joy when the darkness seems unrelenting?

The key is to identify other things that bring you joy and peace, and infiltrate your dark space with these things.

Strategies like these can help you conquer the darkness in your life:

1. Consume yourself with a new activity. There are likely many activities that you’ve never tried, but which could bring you immense pleasure! Sometimes doing something new is what you need to take your mind off the negative state you’re living in and find joy in something unexpected.

* Try your hand at a new hobby that’s time-consuming and enjoyable.
* Live on the edge – or as close to it as you can – by doing something exhilarating. Skydiving and bungee jumping are great examples. So is going on a safari in the jungles of South Africa!

2. Enjoy the company of others. Spending time with family and friends is another great way to rehabilitate your state of mind and truly experience joy. Remember, they love you unconditionally and can offer as much support as you need. Hang out with them more than normal; you’ll start to experience healing from all that positive energy around you.

* Take a family vacation to somewhere you’ve never been before.
* Plan a weekend where you and your friends can make wonderful new memories.

3. Hold firm to your faith. It’s very likely that your faith is what has brought you through the darkness thus far. Your faith in the Creator’s ability to sustain you should not be overlooked. If you believe the Creator has kept you going through the worst moments of your life, there’s no reason to think you’ll be alone through the rest of it!

4. Think with your mind, not your emotions. Make a conscious effort to separate thinking and reasoning from feeling. Otherwise, you’re likely to start believing that nothing can ever work out.

* Apply reasoning to the circumstances which led to your darkness, and use the same reasoning to get you to a brighter place.

You’ll start to feel yourself being lifted from the darkness if you allow yourself to practice things that bring you joy. It’s not always going to be an easy road, but you’ll be able to travel it if you commit to allowing outside influences to help turn things around for you.

Use these ideas to help you start thinking about the various things that you might enjoy. After all, there’s a world of joy waiting for you to experience! It’s up to you to choose that joy for your life!

I take time for relaxation.

My days are full of activities, people, conversations, and lists of things to complete. Even though I might be thwarted from accomplishing everything I would like to today, I am still comfortable with carving out some time for relaxation.

When I relax, it gives my mind and thoughts a replenishing rest from all the stress of the day.

I see relaxing as one of the most important things I do for my own health and well-being. In addition, my rest time enables me to be successful in everything else I do every day. I never feel guilty for taking time to relax.

Instead, I look forward to the time I have each day to kick back and do whatever I want to bring regeneration to my soul. It is no surprise that my favorite part of the day is the time I take to relax.

Today, I know I can truly enjoy the time I spend relaxing.

I am well aware that my cherished moments of relaxation ensure my continued health, happiness, and success in life.

The time I take relaxing is necessary for my very existence. I have every right to experience time for relaxation.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I take time to relax every day? If not, why not?
2. How do I feel on days I relax? How do my emotions on those days compare with how I feel on days I do not take time out for myself?
3. What are some things I can do to ensure that I will relax at least 30 minutes each day?

Being productive is important to me.

Many opportunities present themselves to me each day. As these special events materialize, I opt to make the best of them by producing something that matters.

Daily opportunities allow me to do important or necessary things. Every day, it is integral that I am productive in some way.

I consider my job to be one of the most valuable assets I have. Going to work is a “deposit” to my present as well as my future.

My job is truly an investment in my life. This is why being productive at work is important to me. I do my best, no matter what the project. I make the most of my work tasks by being as productive as possible.

When it comes to productivity, my home life is as important to me as my work.

I make concerted efforts to produce the results I want at home. I keep my personal belongings in order. I follow through with performing maintenance and upkeep as it is necessary. I spend quality time with my children to produce the relationships I strive for.

I choose not to let too much time pass before doing something that truly matters to me. I strive to make the best of my life and I know that focusing on being productive is the formula to live the existence I desire and deserve.

Today, I practice being productive at both work and home. Noticing the results of my efforts is the centerpiece of my day. I plan to continue to live each day as productively as I can.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How productive am I at work?
2. Am I as productive at home as I want to be?
3. What steps can I take to ensure I am as productive as possible?

Life Coaching Lessons # 5 – 3 Ways That Playing Monopoly Can Teach You to Become Wiser and Richer

Playing Monopoly is more than a fun way to pass the time. This board game teaches important economic, academic and social lessons. See all that Monopoly can do for you.

Economic Lessons of Monopoly

1. Make smart investments. Much of the game is landing on property squares you can decide to buy. If you invest wisely and improve your property, you’ll be raking in rent money later on.

2. Build reserve funds. On the other hand, you have to hold on to some of your cash. You’ll need it when you land in jail or have to pay taxes.

3. Understand the role of luck. Just like in real life, you can quickly go from riches to bankruptcy. Take advantage of valuable opportunities and be ready for setbacks. Know that you often make your own luck by being diligent and shrewd.

4. Take risks. Strategic risks will improve your position. Consider the trade-offs and put your money to the best use.

5. Play banker. Take turns playing banker. You’ll learn valuable financial management skills and get familiar with terminology like deeds and rent.

Academic Lessons of Monopoly

1. Start with number recognition. Even small kids can join in. They’ll learn to recognize numbers by counting the dots on the dice and identifying different denominations of money. Counting out loud makes it easier for them.

2. Improve your arithmetic. Computers do most of the arithmetic for us these days. Try doing some calculations in your head or on paper.

3. Practice reading. Community Chest and Chance spaces provide time to polish reading skills. Assign kids the jobs of reading them out loud to everybody.

4. Increase your attention span. Some games can last four hours or more. Develop your patience and extend your ability to focus.

5. Challenge yourself online. If your loved ones already know all your tricks, play online with new contestants. Pitting yourself against experts will improve your game and keep your education going.

Social Lessons of Monopoly

1. Spend time with family and friends. Sharing time together is the foundation for any strong relationship. Turn off the television and focus on each other and the game. Aim to have fun and encourage everyone to feel appreciated.

2. Follow the rules. Games like Monopoly remind us to follow instructions. Creative play is great but kids also need to be prepared to obey directions in school and in the workplace.

3. Make your own rules. There’s also room for adapting the rules to your own situation. Let kids win sometimes to boost their self esteem. Adapt the rules to shorten the game when you need to.

4. Negotiate effectively. Much of Monopoly is wheeling and dealing. Take turns with the Scottie Dog if everyone wants him for their token.

5. Bounce back from adversity. You may wind up going bankrupt or even land in jail. Temporary obstacles can be overcome. When you’re down on your luck, hang in there until you work your way back up.

6. Win graciously. Thank the other players if you come out victorious and accept their congratulations with style. Offer a rematch so they get a chance to win too.

7. Lose like a winner. Only one person can triumph in each game so you also need to accept defeat. Give the champ a pat on the back and offer to help clean up. Think about how you can improve your performance the next time.

A good game of Monopoly can last for hours. It’s time well spent when you consider how it helps you learn to play with others, improve your math skills, and manage your finances.

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Being successful is my natural state.

I find that success comes to me rapidly and with great ease. I know that success is the result of having a positive mindset as well as aggressively pursuing opportunities. I consciously take advantage of both of these attributes.

Every little success breeds greater success and my capacity for success increases with each passing day. That capacity is free of limits. Success is my natural state, so this makes sense for me.

My success is widespread. At work, I am well respected and admired by my peers. I contribute significantly and reap the rewards.

I am successful in my social life. People like me and want to be around me. I am a good friend and have many good friends as a result. My social life is full and satisfying.

At home, I am good partner and parent. I take pride in excelling in this role and enjoy much success with it.

I am successful at life. I move through the world easily and find success at every turn. I build on my previous successes and use my mistakes as learning opportunities so I am always improving and evolving. Being successful is my natural state.

Today, I seize every opportunity to be successful. I naturally expect success and enjoy an abundance of it. Life is good. I work hard, show my love for others, and allow success to be a natural part of my life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are my greatest successes?
2. What new success do I want to experience?
3. What have I learned from my mistakes?

 

My life is easy and filled with joy.

I feel very fortunate that my life is so easy and joyful as I reflect on all the great things that surround me. I have so many things about my life that are wonderful.

I have such wonderful friends and family. I am truly blessed to have such wonderful people helping me each day. They are a great source of joy and inspiration. I am supported and appreciated.

I have a reliable car and a great job. Both of these things make my life easier. At work, my co-workers do everything they can to support a positive work environment.

I go home every day to a safe and comfortable haven. My home is a wonderful place to live and filled with laughter.

My health is getting better and better with every passing day. My tremendous health is also a source of joy for me.

Even though my life is easy, it manages to get even easier over time. I sometimes look back on my life and it pleases me how far I have come. My life is constantly a pleasant surprise.

I have many things to look forward to, so my life is exciting as well. I wish everyone’s life to be as wonderful as mine. I ask myself how I can be so fortunate.

Today, I recommit myself to appreciating all the positive aspects of my life. I have the ability to create any life I desire. I am capable and know how lucky I truly am. My life is easy and filled with joy.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are 3 things that make my life easy?
2. What are 3 things I could be joyful about?
3. What can I do to make my life even easier and more joyful?

Life Coaching Lessons # 6 – 11 Tips to Eliminate Bad Habits

Bad habits have a profound effect on your life. But habits can be challenging to change since they aren’t based on thoughtful choice, so it’s difficult to use logic to change your behavior. They require a multi-facet approach.

If you can’t shake your bad habits, try these tips to get you on the road to freedom:

1. Give it a month. In 30 days you can eliminate a bad habit and create a new, positive habit. Do your very best for a month. If you backslide after a month, it’s likely that your strategy is lacking.

2. Replace your bad habit. It’s almost impossible to just drop it and not replace what you’ve lost. So think about what your bad habit gives you and find a replacement that provides the same benefit. Replace the benefit or it will be a constant battle.

3. Deal with one challenge at a time. For example, avoid trying to overhaul your diet, exercise, spending, and smoking habits all at once. Pick one; give it a month. Then add another one once you’re used to not having the first bad habit.

* You don’t have to be in a hurry. Consider what it would mean if you could just get rid of your 4 worst habits. That’s only 4 months away. Comparatively, that’s quick, considering that you’ve probably had them for a long time.

4. Be a scientist. Leave the big emotional struggle for someone else and approach the process like a scientist. Have an attitude of wondering if you can replace the habit. Hypothesize on how it might turn out. Be curious and have a perspective of doing an experiment. There’s less drama and bias that way.

5. Remove your triggers. For example, get the junk food out of the house. If you smoke, stay away from the places you always smoke. Avoid the places that tempt you to spend a lot of money. Habits don’t have a lot of thought behind them – they’re almost like reflexes. Don’t put yourself in harm’s way.

6. Avoid being too hard on yourself. It might take a couple of tries to get the new habit to stick. Just improve your approach and keep on going.

7. Remind yourself. It’s easy to forget to perform your new habit. If you’re going to start exercising every day, set up some reminders. If you’re going to floss, leave the floss out where you can see it.

8. Tell your friends. Your friends can help you reach your goal. They’ll say something if they see you eating a hot fudge sundae or smoking on your lunch breaks. Get all the help you can.

9. Be consistent. If you’re going to start exercising regularly, try to do it each day at the same time. This is much easier than trying to exercise 3 times a week. Try to do your replacement habit daily.

10. Remember the pain. Each day, ask yourself what it will mean if you don’t stop indulging in your bad habit. Visualize the likely outcome.

11. Focus on the pleasure. Every day, ask yourself what it will mean if you eliminate or replace your bad habit. Visualize the likely outcome of this scenario.

Bad habits really put the brakes on your progress. Use the tips above and give yourself a great opportunity to eliminate your bad habits and replace them with useful habits. There’s no better feeling than knowing you have control over your life.

I strive for improvement in whatever I do.

The human condition ensures I am fallible and can occasionally falter in my efforts. And because of that fact, I take advantage of the many opportunities throughout my day to improve myself.

I try hard to do better today than yesterday. I live each day focused on my progress to do better and be better.

Improving my behavior makes me feel like I am making progress in my life journey. I enrich my life and the lives of those around me when I strive to make improvements.

I like who I am today because of my diligence for improvement.

At work, I focus on my projects. I am thorough when completing tasks. I make checklists to keep me on track. I not only do my best, but I also make it a point to try to go one step beyond the prior project I completed. My co-workers look up to me because I try so hard to improve in everything I do.

I know that I am a role model for others. Although gratifying, such responsibility also compels me to excel in all my tasks.

Today, I know I can keep the concept of improvement in my mind. Whether I am taking care of my appearance, work tasks, or personal life, I plan to improve on whatever tasks I am doing.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I put forth my ultimate effort to make improvements?
2. When was the last time I wanted to do better? How did I handle those feelings?
3. What can I do to help me focus on improving myself?

Life Coaching Lessons # 7 – Accept Compliments More Graciously

Compliments are a simple way to help each other feel better by acknowledging our accomplishments and positive qualities. If receiving praise sometimes make you uncomfortable, think about the benefits of being appreciated and learn to respond graciously.

The Benefits of Exchanging Compliments

1. Provide validation. In the crush of daily pressures, it’s common for people to feel unnoticed. A word of commendation shows that we matter and that our efforts make a difference. Become more observant and practice with letting others know what you like about them. You’ll instantly feel happier and probably get more kudos yourself soon.

2. Get feedback. Input from others provides important data for letting us know if we’re headed in the right direction. If your boss loved your last status report, you know what to do with your next one. If your church newsletter features you as volunteer of the month, you know you’re spending your time in ways that matter to them.

3. Improve each other’s lives. Kind words and respect make us mindful of how much we need each other. Take time to share a little applause.

General Suggestions for Receiving Compliments

1. Express gratitude. Whatever the wording, you want to say thank you when someone pays you a compliment. You may keep it as simple as that or refer to your own gratification in making a contribution.

2. Resist the urge to downplay. Forget about minimizing your abilities. It can make you feel less confident and it might make the other person feel like you fail to value their opinion.

3. Keep it brief. If you’re already in the habit of deflecting compliments, the safest course of action is to keep your responses concise. Just say thank you and leave it at that. Long speeches could get you off track.

4. Pay it forward. If a compliment leaves you glowing, reach out to others to pass it along. Tell your kids they did a good job cleaning their room or tell a local retailer you like their new store window.

5. Monitor your body language. Ensure your face matches your words. Smile and maintain eye contact when accepting praise. Keep your body language open and inviting. Lower your shoulders and uncross your arms.

Suggestions for Receiving Compliments in Specific Circumstances

1. Recognize gender differences. Everyone can experience discomfort with compliments, but it’s usually more pervasive with women. Learn to distinguish between healthy humility and putting yourself down.

2. Focus on inner beauty. Even when you mean well, some people may be sensitive about their physical appearance or other issues. In some environments like the workplace, it’s usually safer to address how they perform rather than how they look.

3. Share the credit. When teamwork is involved, include your colleagues in the tribute. Point out the specific contributions that others made to bringing about any success.

4. Know the protocol for toasts. When someone raises a glass to you, it’s proper to remain attentive and smile while the rest of the group drinks. You get to drink when you follow up by offering a return toast.

5. Stay up to date with social media. These days, people may be saying good things about you in the digital world too. Keep up with Facebook, Twitter and other platforms. Offer prompt and heartfelt thanks the same as you would at home or in the office.

Let compliments lift your spirits and brighten your day. Giving and receiving praise helps to guide us towards our goals and strengthens our relationships along the way. When someone says something nice, thank them sincerely and remember you deserve it.

I follow my instincts.

In order to live an enjoyable and rewarding life, I pay attention to my feelings and respond to them accordingly. In every situation, I notice my emotions and what they tell me I should do. Then, I follow those messages through my actions.

I am glad that I listen to my own heartfelt emotions.

An important element of feeling proud of myself is recognizing my own “smarts.” Listening to my gut and following through with what I believe is the right thing to do shows intelligence.

After all, my experiences throughout life are found deep within me. Those experiences are incorporated into who I am as a human being. So, I listen to my thoughts and feelings because they spring from my collective knowledge and experience.

Sometimes, I find it necessary to disagree with others. I can express my own opinion and intentions to others without distress. I know that all I need do is look within myself to find the best way for me.

It feels good to be so sure of my own thoughts and feelings. My instincts are there for me, regardless of the situation.

Today, I know I can stay in touch with my instincts and follow their advice in my everyday life. My instincts consistently keep me safe and strong and motivate me to make the best decisions. I trust my gut to get me through any challenge.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I pay attention to my own thoughts and feelings?
2. Am I able to trust my instincts? If not, why not?
3. How can I start affording more trust to these inner feelings?

Life Coaching Lessons # 8 – 4 Ways to Come to Terms With Your True Self

There are likely times when you’re unhappy with who you are, what you’ve attained in life, or which path you’re taking. That’s because you’re human. Those sentiments affect all of us from time to time. Sure, there will be days when your best doesn’t seem good enough to you, but what if your best is really just fine?

Coming to terms with your true self can help you acknowledge the awesome person you really are. Your various characteristics combine to make something totally unique and special. No one else has your individual talents. No one else could ever take your unique place in this world.

Accepting yourself for who you truly are can also boost your confidence and help you take advantage of your innate skills for your own benefit and that of others as well.

Try these strategies to achieve contentment with the skin you’re in:

1. Know that you are special. It’s important that you look at the person you are as a beautiful creation. You weren’t made this way by mistake. Your beliefs, likes, and dislikes are all part of a magnificent design.

2. Look at the bright side. Often times, you probably feel that someone else’s situation is better than yours because they have more, seem to be happier, or appear better off than you. But if you take a moment to look at the circumstances of others who are “less blessed” than you are, you’ll realize that there is actually a bright side to your life.

* Do you know anyone who couldn’t find work for so long that they’ve given up on it?
* Is there anyone around you who’s suffering the pain of losing a loved one?
* When was the last time you noticed how many homeless people live under the freeway?

3. Consider your accomplishments. Throughout your life, you’ve probably achieved lots of things, both personally and professionally. Whether you accomplished a stronger bond with your parents, or completion of a project that won your workplace a new contract, those things all took place while you were in the skin you’re in today.

* Remember that the person who has those accomplishments is the true you – you did it with your own strength, abilities and sensibilities.

* You’re a winner in your own right by merit of what you’ve accomplished, and no one can take those victories away from you.

4. Avoid underestimating yourself. One important factor that may be causing you to feel less than happy with who you are and where you are in life is the fact that you may be underestimating yourself. It’s possible that you don’t have what you want because you haven’t really tried to get it!

* Instead of wishing you had what somebody else has, why not put some thought into how you can achieve it for yourself? Make a detailed plan of achievable steps to get what you want.

* Stop and consider that there’s really nothing separating you from your goals because you have what it takes to work towards it.

You were uniquely created with the talents and skills to have a fulfilling life. However, remember that what you put in is also what you get out. Make the life for yourself that only you can design and achieve!

I admit my mistakes.

Every day, I encounter situations when things go differently than I hope. Sometimes, I firmly believe that what I am doing is the right thing to do. However, I sometimes choose an incorrect action. I make mistakes and that is a fact. And when I do, I acknowledge it right away.

Although it is challenging to admit to my mistakes, I know that it is ultimately the easiest path to follow.

Any struggle I experience regarding my error is quickly relieved upon stating that I made a mistake. I am free from the stress of trying to keep the secret of my misstep.

In a sense, admitting to my errors cleanses me emotionally. I start with a clean slate when I fully accept I make a mistake. I concentrate each day on doing the best I can with the knowledge that when I err, I have an opportunity to start again.

My life improves beyond measure because I recognize my personal mistakes to myself and others. When I do, it brings the freedom to go forward in life and pursue my passions. Also, I experience feelings of renewal and hope as I admit to my errors.

Today, I know I can acknowledge my mistakes. I realize it is to my benefit to do so. I embrace my mistakes so I can learn valuable information from them.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How honest and open am I in my efforts to admit my errors?
2. Do I admit to my mistakes? How does it feel? Do I admit them swiftly?
3. What can I do to be more willing to admit my errors?

Life Coaching Lessons # 9 – How to Embrace New Chapters in Your Life

As you’re well aware, life is full of changes. Sometimes, the changes occur when you least expect them, and you end up with your routines being thrown out of whack. That’s how it often is when new chapters are opened up in your life. You might get caught by surprise, and immediately get flustered because you’ve never dealt with being in that situation before.

It’s easy to lose composure when you’re going through something totally novel to you. It’s easy to give up because you feel like you’ve lost control of your life.

The good news is that you can approach these life events with positive techniques that keep you from feeling intimidated by them.

Follow these strategies to not only deal with, but also embrace, these new chapters in your life:

1. Have an open mind. Expect the best scenario instead of the worst. Remind yourself that you’ve made it through more challenging situations before.

* Embrace the idea that this event might bring with it all sorts of positive spins on existing situations that challenge you. This new chapter in your life could be the answer to your reaching previously unattainable goals.

2. Exercise courage. Fear can keep you from achieving what you want out of life. It can turn strong men weak and result in disappointment, sadness and humiliation. If you picture living a life with those negative attributes, you’ll start to develop the courage to prevent that from happening. So face the unknown with every ounce of courage you have!

* Even when you’re not feeling courageous, tell yourself you’re brave. Walk into a situation while repeating the words, “I have what it takes to conquer this.”

3. Take one step at a time. By far, the easiest way to approach any situation in life is to break it down into its smallest parts. When looking at the big picture of your new chapter, it might seem mammoth and insurmountable. But if you take a minute to dissect it, you’ll realize it’s a lot easier to take smaller bites and even savor the taste of newness.

4. Be guided by past mistakes. Nobody you know has more experience in your life than you do! You know your strengths and abilities, and you also know where you went wrong before. Those learning lessons should be the tools you take into life’s new chapter. Use them as much as possible to help guide you through the unknown.

5. Be honest. If your new chapter in life is something being presented to you by someone else, be honest about feeling intimidated by it. If you’re expected to tackle it and come out victorious, you definitely don’t want to disappoint! It’s better to state your position up front because people respect honest even when it doesn’t favor them.

New chapters don’t have to be scary at all. You’d be surprised how perfectly capable you are of taking things head-on and relishing in the goodness they can provide. Give yourself the chance to experience fulfillment; use these strategies to embrace new chapters like you already know the outcome!

Meditation is integral to my daily routine.

I deserve to have special time today to spend doing whatever I want to do. Having time to replenish, re-charge, and re-invigorate my mind, body, and soul is necessary if I want to be productive and efficient every day.

Meditation accomplishes all these tasks and is an essential part of each day.

Meditating brings me feelings of comfort and enhanced well-being. When I meditate, I concentrate on my breathing. As I clear my mind of extraneous thoughts, I feel my body relaxing to the rhythm of my breathing. I find meditating to be one of the greatest joys of my life. It helps me stay focused throughout my busy days.

I trust the process of meditation because it brings me so much tranquility and peace. When I want to settle down from a hectic day, I take 10 minutes to meditate. I marvel at the difference those 10 minutes make in my day.

The stress and distress I feel before I sit down to meditate disappears by the end of my meditation session. I am renewed. I start fresh from that point in the day. Meditation is truly a cherished jewel in my daily routine.

Today, I plan to meditate for at least 3 10-minute sessions. I believe that meditating in this way helps me to feel calm, handle troublesome events more easily, and manage my own emotions more successfully.

The time I spend meditating ensures my life is filled with the joy and accomplishment I deserve.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How often do I meditate?
2. What kinds of thoughts and feelings do I have about meditation?
3. What would it take for me to commit to meditate every single day?

Life Coaching Lessons # 10 – Making the Most of a Fresh Start

Fresh starts take place in your life every day. If there’s something you’re doing for the first time, you can consider that a fresh start. The term “fresh start” has a warm, exciting sound to them, but the reality is that something new isn’t always something you look forward to.

How can you make the most of a fresh start – especially when it’s proving difficult?

What you might need to wrap your mind around is the fact that an unfamiliar position or situation serves as an opportunity for you to utilize talents you never knew you had. It gives you the chance to challenge yourself and see just what you’re made of. Are you ready to do that?

Here are some tips to help you make the most of your fresh start:

1. Embrace it with an open mind. As scary as your fresh start may seem at first, it’s really important that you embrace it with an open mind. You’ve likely seen situations in the past that turned out to be only half as bad as you had anticipated. Anticipation with anxiety can make anything seem worse than it is, so make a conscious effort to keep an open mind.

* Remind yourself that newness brings with it exciting opportunities to prove your capabilities.

* Less is sometimes more, and knowing less about something you’re about to embark on makes it more rewarding when you conquer it!

2. Begin with the end in mind. Okay, so your fresh start has you feeling a little nervous and insecure. But have you stopped to consider what you want the outcome to be in the end? By knowing the desired outcome, you can plot the path to getting there.

* Consider how you’d ideally want the situation to turn out.
* Assess whether your ideal scenario is actually a realistic outcome.
* If it’s realistic, start making a step by step plan that will take you where you want to go.
* At this point, you might start getting really excited about your fresh start!

3. Conquer your fears with faith. If you have faith in the guidance of your Creator and your abilities to reap positive rewards, you can overcome those fears. Faith is stronger than any fear, doubt or insecurity you may have, so feel free to rely on it when you need to.

* Remember how your faith has gotten you through tough situations in the past.
* Believe in yourself and everything else will fall into place.

4. Liken it to a past experience. There’s a saying that goes, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” If you’ve had similar starting points in the past and are here now to tell about them, it means you’ve made it through them! And if they were anything like your newest fresh start, chances are you’re more than capable of making it through this one.

By following these strategies, you have what it takes to make the most of a fresh start and come out with a positive experience to be proud of. Go after this new situation with all the gusto you’ve got because you know you’re equipped with the tools to win!

Money flows to me.

I find that money flows to me readily and easily. My life is like a large river being fed by multiple streams of money that are forever flowing. My life is bursting at the seams from all the money that comes into my life.

In the past, I may have been challenged by my financial situation. But now I find that money flows easily into my life. I know that I am the cause of this turnaround.

My thoughts are focused on generating and receiving wealth. I deserve all the money that flows to me.

I am constantly amazed at how money just seems to find me. It pops up in unexpected places. Seemingly hidden sources of money are available to me at all times. I merely need to keep my eyes open to see and benefit from these sources.

At night, I meditate for few moments and concentrate on money. While meditating, I gain tremendous insight to how the universe deals with money and wealth. I apply this insight in my daily life. The result is money flowing to me from every direction.

I regularly find lost change on the ground. I know that by accepting these small tokens of wealth, I am able to also accept bigger opportunities to earn and receive greater amounts of money.

Today, I allow more money to flow into my life. My resistance to money is completely gone. I am open to all the wealth and abundance that the universe provides.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. In what ways do I resist money coming to me?
2. What thoughts about money should I change so that they will better serve me?
3. Do I regularly track my income and acknowledge my windfalls?

There is a huge demand for my skills and abilities.

My abilities and skills are in high demand. I have many opportunities available to me, all I need to do is take the time to look. I have a lot to offer the right employer, and the right employer is searching for me right now. Plus, I have the right to be well compensated for my exceptional skills and abilities.

Even if I decide to work for myself, my skills and abilities are in high demand. I can rapidly sell my services for a significant income. It makes me excited to even consider the possibilities!

I make a list of my greatest skills and capabilities and each day I add to it. The more I work on it, the more impressed I am with myself. I can easily sell my time and skills. I am excited and motivated to use my skills and talents to best of my ability.

When searching for a new job, I consider all the possible ways I could best leverage my skill set. I ask myself which employers would be most interested in what I have to offer. Then, I make a plan to approach these employers and market myself to them. I am certain to hear from them quickly after putting my plan into action.

Today, I am making a list of everything I have to offer the world. I am finding the best opportunity to take full advantage of my skills and abilities. I am changing my life with the realization that there is a huge demand for my skills and abilities.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are my greatest skills and abilities?
2. Who wants someone with my skills and abilities?
3. What can I do right now to find the right opportunity to use my talents to their best advantage?

Life Coaching Lessons # 11 – 4 Activities That Expand Your Horizons and Make Life More Fulfilling

Have you ever felt like you’ve been missing something that could make your life more fulfilling? Perhaps you’re yearning to expand your horizons and reach for something beyond the scope of what you know today.

These activities will make a marked difference in helping you find that sense of newness and fulfillment you’re seeking:

1. Read. Reading is a great way to expand your horizons and give you an appreciation of concepts and ideas which you’ve never really given much thought to before. You’ll quickly find that you’re becoming more imaginative and even more accepting of the points of view of others around you.

* History books give a true sense of appreciation of cultures and may help you determine why some cultures have behaviors that are so different from your own.

* If you’re inclined to behave a certain way, such as a free-loving spirit or a goal-driven individual, try reading to learn about how you can break out of your mold and live in another realm. You’ll be surprised at how liberating it can be!

2. Engage others. Partaking in meaningful conversation with others outside of your loyal friends or your everyday co-workers is a great way to open up your mind’s eye. Try visiting a new hang out spot or accept invitations from random acquaintances and see what new possibilities open up.

* Not much into politics? Give it a shot by engaging politics-driven individuals in conversation. You may not ever become a politician, but you can at least understand their point of view!

* Thinking about giving back? Why not spend some time with charity workers to understand the impact of their work? That may be the push you need to make a difference in the lives of the less fortunate.

3. Create. As a child, was there ever anything you wanted to be able to create? A written expression, music, useful new gadget, or even a structure? Now that you’re grown, and possibly in a better position to create, why not take a shot at it? Try and do something totally unrelated to your current stage or status in life.

* Write a book sharing your innermost fears and insecurities; you may find that it gives you the liberation you’ve wanted for many years.

* Start a self-development blog for teens, which may very well help them through issues you faced when you were their age.

4. Appreciate. Although there are things other people accomplish that might not be in your normal scope, why not try and take the time to appreciate their worth? While the impact may initially be beyond your insight or understanding, actually spending the time looking into it for its worth may allow you to gain an appreciation you never had before.

The reality is that you’re really never too old to learn!

There are endless lessons just waiting to have a profound impact on you, if only you’ll let them. And the more you expose your mind to, the broader your horizons will become.

Remember that knowledge is power, so avoid limiting your knowledge base and open your mind to new possibilities.

I love and accept myself the way I am.

Whenever I have a free minute, I like to mentally list all the things I like about myself. I am able to quickly and easily make a long list of my positive qualities. Sometimes I surprise myself at how talented and gifted I am. I am truly blessed.

I have a few characteristics I want to change about myself but I am still very content with who I am. I accept myself completely. I choose to focus on my positive features.

Loving myself can be challenging. I may even have doubts on occasion. But those doubts vanish as quickly as they arise. I am free from nagging doubt and concern. I love and accept myself the way I am.

I realize that flawlessness is impossible. After all, how boring would it be if everyone were perfect?

It is really my imperfections that make me perfect just the way I am! I love my unique qualities that make me special. I can do things others only dream about doing.

I find it easy to be accepting of myself because I am so accepting of others. I believe in the right of everyone to be unique and special, just like my individuality makes me special in this world.

Today, I choose to love myself and others in my life just the way we are. Love and acceptance are gifts that I give and receive each day.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What qualities do I love about myself?
2. In what ways do I need to be more accepting of myself?
3. How can I increase my acceptance of others?

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Life Coaching Lessons # 12 – Learn the Most Effective Ways to Mend Broken Relationships

As you go through life, you’ll likely encounter situations that result in your relationships with others being broken. Whether those relationships are with friends, co-workers or family members, the negative repercussions of the situation has caused a rift between you and left a gap in your life.

There’s always that feeling of being incomplete when you’re at odds with someone you were once close to. And running into them continues to be very uncomfortable.

What can you do to mend this rift and set things right again?

Try these techniques for restoring your broken relationships:

1. Be honest about the part you played. Sometimes, mending a relationship is harder than it needs to be because you just haven’t come to terms with the part you played to break it in the first place. It’s really important to take an honest look inward and take responsibility for your own contribution for what happened.

* Play the situation back in your mind. Look at what you did, how you responded to the point of view of the other person, and how much effort you put towards resolution at the time.

* Turn the tables and ask yourself how you would feel if you were the recipient of your original behavior. Would you feel hurt? Offended? Be honest with yourself about it.

* Avoid feeling justified for any wrong you did in the situation. If it’s wrong, it’s just plain wrong!

2. Be willing to forgive. At the end of your assessment, you may realize that the other person also did or said hurtful things. And while they may not have apologized thus far, it’s important that you display the willingness to forgive them – even if that word “sorry” never comes out!

* Forgiveness isn’t based on someone’s apology, it’s based on your inner desire to be at peace with yourself and someone else. It’s about getting those emotional weights off your shoulders.

* Remember that forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to forget. Maintaining memory of the accounts of the past helps you to know how to react in similar situations in the future.

3. Open channels of communication in stages. If the relationship means a lot to you, a good idea would be to try and open the channels of communication in several stages. Avoid trying to be “bosom buddies” overnight. Take it one step at a time to thaw the ice instead of chiseling away and trying to break it!

* Perhaps you can start with a quick note or e-mail to say, “Hi, you were in my thoughts so I thought I’d send you a quick hello.”

* Gradually, you can move on to phone calls, group outings, and then eventually one-on-one sessions.

4. Suggest counseling. Try not to get paranoid about the word counseling! It doesn’t have to mean sitting in with a professional and having your dirty laundry aired. It could simply involve getting to the root of the issue to find a solution that’s acceptable to both of you.

It would be wise not to expect that all relationships can be mended in the same amount of time. However, it’s very likely that they can all be mended if the same activities previously discussed are part of the equation. Remember, the more openness and honesty you display, the easier it will be to get a positive outcome.

I make friends easily wherever I go.

I have many friends. It seems that I make a new friend every time I step out of the house.

I find it easy to talk to everyone and people always seem to like me. My friends think I have a magnetic personality and I think they are correct.

I have a genuine interest in others and I find that making friends is easy when I care about them.

I make it a point to smile at everyone I see. I naturally have a smile on my face and can feel my smile spreading throughout my body. I am a walking, talking smile.

Whenever I am speaking with someone, I make sure to use their name in conversation. I like to make other people feel special and using their name is a great way to accomplish that. Everyone likes to hear his own name.

I always ask for the contact information of any new, potential friend. I follow up and make an effort to keep in touch.

I realize that there are countless new friends out there I have yet to meet. Every new person is a potential new friend. I give everyone a chance to become a friend.

Today, I am keeping my eyes open for any new friends I can make. I am kind to everyone I meet and treat them like a long-lost friend. I make friends easily wherever I go.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I happy with my friendships?
2. Do I want more?
3. How can I make more good friends?

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Life Coaching Lessons # 13 – Never Lose Anything Again

Does your desk look like it was hit by a hurricane? Do you lose your car keys three times a week? Could you find every single thing you own, right now?

The ability to easily find everything says something about how well you have your life under control. If finding your stuff is a chaotic process, there’s a good chance that your life is chaotic in general.

In order to increase the peace in your life, the only real rule you need to follow is to put everything back in its proper place when you’re done using it.

Here’s how to make this concept a reality:

1. Sort, put away, sell, give away, and toss your stuff. First, go through all your things. Put away all the items you really need or love. Everything else should be sold, given away, or tossed in the trash. Avoid feeling too attached to things that serve no purpose nor have great emotional value.

2. Have a system for your papers. All incoming mail should have some type of sorting and storage system. Junk mail in the trash. Bills in one place. Other important mail somewhere else. Whenever you need to find a bill or other mail, you’ll know where to look. It also helps at tax time. File the things you intend to keep beyond short-term.

3. Find a place for everything. For example, dirty clothes go in the hamper. Shoes go in the closet. Car keys go in the kitchen drawer. It really doesn’t matter where you choose to put all of your different things; just have a logical place that you’ll use religiously. So don’t put your shoe polish in with the silverware.

4. Put it away when you’re done. And encourage everyone else in the house to do the same. Don’t wait until you feel like it; put it back as soon as you’re done. Consider that if everyone put his or her stuff away when it was no longer needed, you would never have any clutter again.

5. Strive to make it a new habit. It will take a month or so, but if you can hang tough for a month, you’ll probably put your stuff away consistently for the rest of your life. One potentially tough month is worth it!

6. Unless it’s a shelf, all flat surfaces should be essentially clear. Avoid putting your items on a counter, desk, bed, dresser, or the dining table. Permanent or purposely decorative items are fine, but these surfaces should not serve as temporary storage locations.

7. Acknowledge that the floor isn’t a storage location. Toys, clothes, books, magazines, wrapping paper, towels, and everything else should not be stored on the floor. Find a better place for your items and leave the floor for the furniture.

8. Periodically re-evaluate. Occasionally evaluate how your organization and storage system is working for you.

* Anytime you lose something, diagnose the situation. What went wrong? How can you prevent it again in the future? This process of fine-tuning makes all the difference in the world. Keep fixing the flaws.

Losing your items can be a thing of the past. Get organized and have a place for everything. Put your stuff away when you’re done using it and not only will you be clutter-free, but you’ll also know exactly where to find it the next time and every time after that.

Enjoy your new peace as the chaos melts away, never to be seen again!

I strive to manage my time effectively.

Life provides me with many things to do.

There are activities I want to do as well as activities that I feel I must accomplish each day. I visit relatives regularly. I love seeing my friends. I take care of my important relationships. I spend time with my children. I do whatever I can to successfully manage these many priorities.

I manage my time by living my life as consciously as I can. I am mindful of which tasks are required of me on any given day. I keep short lists of things that must be completed. I add special entries for activities I want to do.

My thoughts are concerned with finishing “must-do” tasks while scheduling in things I yearn to do. I schedule my life well.

Even though I get very busy throughout the day, I find I am able to live in the moment to enjoy it to its fullest. As I manage time well, I can work hard on a project for a few hours and then enjoy a cup of coffee with a friend.

Playtime with my kids is filled with love and laughter. Such moments compel me to do everything I can to consciously plan and manage how I spend my time.

Today, I intend to review how well I am dealing with my schedule. I know I can complete work tasks, finish home projects, spend time with those I love, and still have a bit of time left for me each day. Effective time management is tops on my list.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How do I feel about how I spend my time?
2. Do I do everything I can to manage my schedule effectively?
3. Are my highest priorities reflected in my schedule? If not, how can I rearrange my routines to fit in more of what’s most important to me?

Life Coaching Lessons # 14 – Be Kind: 8 Strategies to Pump up Your Kindness Factor

Because we all have so many things to accomplish in an average day, it’s sometimes necessary to remind ourselves to take the time to be kind to others. Your kindness will often be paid back with more kindness that makes your life easier, so being nice to others has double benefits!

Consider these ways to increase your kindness factor:

1. Listen better. Sure, you have your own business on your mind. Maybe you’re mentally rehearsing your list of things to do or wondering how on earth you’ll complete a project at work by next week. However, learning to focus on whoever is speaking shows politeness and that you’re interested in what they’re saying.

2. Slow down. The pace you’re keeping can cause you to overlook the feelings of others. Pushing your way through or rushing by others appears rude and unkind.

3. Acknowledge others who are nearby. It doesn’t take long to make eye contact, smile, and say, “Hi.” In fact, you can do all 3 of those things while you’re walking by. Giving simple acknowledgements of the presence of others is the kind, human thing to do.

4. Take an extra moment to help another person. If you notice a person is struggling to carry their bags at the grocery, say, “Let me get you a cart” and then do it. You never know when, sometime in the near future, you might benefit from the kindness of a stranger yourself.

5. Vow to yourself to be kind to others. Each morning when you arise, remind yourself of your personal edict to treat others nicely. When you keep the topic of kindness in the forefront of your mind by promising yourself to be nicer to others, you’re more likely to practice it regularly.

6. Once a month, take goodies to work to share. Your coworkers will feel the kindness from your very soul whenever you present them with a snack from time to time.

* Whether you love to bake cookies, have an apple or peach tree in your back yard where you can pluck some fresh fruit, or grow your own tomatoes in the summer, sharing something to eat with others is a kind thing to do. It says, “I care about you.”

7. Ponder kindness. When you occasionally reflect on what kindness means to you, you’ll be better able to practice the virtue in your daily life. Consider how closely patience and kindness are related: in order to be kind, you’ve likely got to be patient with others, no matter what else is going on in your own life.

8. Establish a “kindness” role model. Who do you know who’s exceptionally kind to others? Is there a very nice person you’d like to emulate?

* If you select someone to be your kindness role model, you’ll pick up some ideas on how to be a kind person, simply by watching him or her. You don’t have to share that you’ve got a kindness role model if you don’t want to.

Being kind to others is an easy virtue to practice. It doesn’t take a lot of work or effort. However, if you decide to apply the suggestions above, you’ll see yourself as one of the kindest people you’ve ever known. When you keep kindness in your heart, you attract it back like a shining beacon in the dark.

I successfully manage challenges in life.

Life is a true joy that I embrace each day. But even in my wonderful existence, there are times of trials and tribulations.

When I experience troubling situations, I am confident that I can do whatever is necessary to resolve them.

When I face a challenge, I summon my inner strength. I give myself positive messages. I say things like, “I know I can do it.” I might even smile to myself when I am in a tough situation. I do these things because I know I have made it through many stumbling blocks before and can do so now.

I see the challenge as just one more opportunity to show I can overcome and continue to live the way I truly deserve to.

I can make it through anything. I face every challenge and rise above each one. My personal strength sustains me throughout each of these experiences.

Dealing with challenges allows me to expand my repertoire of skills.

I ask myself if I need to call someone for help. I examine my options to resolve the issue. I weigh out the possible solutions. I decide which plan of action can best lead me to a successful conclusion.

Today, I know I can meet head-on with any difficulty that comes my way. I am destined to live a beautiful, tranquil, and successful life. I am living it today and every day.

I am proud of the way I handle my life challenges so successfully.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I successfully confront challenges?
2. How do I go about handling a troubling issue?
3. What can I do to successfully deal with a challenge when it is ahead of me?

Life Coaching Lessons # 15 – How to Accept Criticism Gracefully

Criticism is simply a part of life. Even if you decide to never talk to anyone or leave your house again, someone somewhere might still be saying unkind things about you. Since you can’t hide from it, you might as well come up with a plan to eliminate the negative impact it can have. Maybe you can even benefit from it! How great would that be?

This process will allow you to effectively handle criticism, learn from it, and move on:

1. Pause. In the case of receiving criticism, your first reaction is unlikely to be the best reaction. Take a deep breath and pause for a moment. You can always respond later. Walk away and give yourself the time you need.

* Emotional responses are rarely the best. The most positive decisions are made with thought and consideration.

2. Be a big person. Recognize that criticism is never more than a criticism of your actions, it’s not a criticism of who you are. Even if someone intends the latter, it’s not truly the case.

* Try to stay detached from all the emotion and look at everything in an impersonal manner. Your immediate impulse might be to attack back, but striking back solves nothing and only escalates the situation. You’ll feel much better about yourself if you rise above the silliness.

3. Learn what you can. Nearly all criticism has at least a speck of truth to it. See if you can identify the truth in the criticism you received. What can you learn? How can you improve? At the very least, you get practice dealing effectively with criticism! Don’t dismiss the criticism too quickly. You can learn something from everyone.

4. Thank your critic. It might be the last thing you feel like doing at the moment, but do it anyway. Maybe they are just having one of those days. But even if they are simply a rude, negative person in general, thank them anyway.

* You’re likely to catch them off-guard, and they’re likely to either expand on the reasoning behind the critique or apologize. You might even win them over when you accept their critique gracefully.

* Regardless of the other person’s reaction, it’s good to show yourself that you’re above it all. If other people are around, it will appear to them that you are an emotionally mature person that can’t be bothered by the riff-raff of the world. Your reputation will improve.

5. Apply what you’ve learned. Improve yourself. No one is always right, so give yourself the gift of allowing yourself to be wrong. Take the criticism and apply the lesson to your life. If you go through life constantly tweaking and improving your life and your processes, how could things not turn out incredibly well?

6. Let it go. After you’ve extracted whatever value you can from it, let it go. Any time spent brooding on it is wasted. Take what you can from it and move on. That’s what successful people do.

Don’t let criticism get you down! Take criticism gracefully, thank the perpetrator, learn, apply, and move on. Your time is important, so be the bigger person and let it go.

Most people are simply criticizing the things they see in you that they dislike about themselves. So they’re basically criticizing themselves; they just don’t realize it.

Now you can handle whatever criticism comes your way. With these tips, you can use any criticism to further your own success, instead of allowing it to be a cause for distress. Have at it and enjoy the results!

I am free of the need to be right.

I realize that sometimes I have the option of either being right or being happy. I choose to be happy.

My ego is strong enough that I am free of the need to be right all the time. I consider this a great strength.

My life is easy as a result of my mindset. I am fine with letting others believe they are correct. I am strong enough to live this way.

In addition, by allowing myself the possibility of being wrong, I am more open to other possibilities. When I am certain I am right, I naturally close myself off from all other opportunities.

I can remember times when I was certain I was correct, but later turned out to be incorrect. So now I can release my previous beliefs and examine situations with a fresh perspective. I learn a lot this way.

I am constantly evolving as a human being; this growth is largely from allowing my opinions and perspectives to change over time. There is great power in the ability to change.

Today, I allow others to be right. I am perfectly willing to be wrong from time to time. I find it refreshing to re-examine my previous opinions to see if I can benefit from a change.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I too set in my ways to grow as a person?
2. Do I feel the need to prove to others that I am correct? If so, why?
3. How can I let go of the need to be right?

Life Coaching Lessons # 16 – Coping With What You Did – 9 Strategies to Manage a Guilty Conscience

If you’ve ever had a guilty conscience, you know how difficult it can be to go on with your life just like before the event that caused your guilt. Taking action to help you make up for the harmful event or put it in your past can help you manage your guilt and move forward with more positivity.

Consider applying these strategies to help you deal with a guilty conscience:

1. Come clean. If you can go to the person you wronged, fully knowing and accepting what might happen to your relationship, you might be able to purge your conscience.

* However, when you have a guilty conscience, it’s often because you committed a grave error against someone you really love and care about. You might feel like you can never come clean with that person due to possible repercussions.

* If you’re inclined to choose this method, consider it carefully before you implement it. Reflect both on how this knowledge will affect the one you wronged as well as how coming clean will affect you. It may be best to use the written word.

2. Write down your misdeed and an apology. Read it aloud to the person, or hand it to him to read.

3. Acknowledge to yourself that you’re human. Be honest with yourself about what you did. Then, recognize that every person makes mistakes and that your goal is to avoid making this same error again.

4. Learn from it. Spend some time thinking about the event and the mistake you made. Put yourself back into that mindset and ask yourself, “Why did I do it?” Recognize where you were emotionally at the time and how destructive that “place” was for you. What can you learn from the experience?

5. Seek religious consult. If you belong to a religion that encourages confession and reconciliation, follow through with it! It’s truly uplifting and encourages healing from your wounds.

6. Spend some time doing volunteer work. If you believe you must do something to “cancel out” the deed you committed, schedule time to do volunteer work in your community. It might be addressing envelopes for a local charity to mail flyers or answering a local organization’s phones for 2 hours a week.

* Remind yourself that you are “paying” for your misdeed by doing good things for others. Be positive.

7. Focus on doing one good deed a day. Maybe you can give your neighbor a lift to work. Or you can wash your dad’s car. Take a look around you. You’ll see people everywhere performing daily tasks. Jump in and help them. It will feel great and renew your faith in yourself and your positive actions.

8. Donate money to a cause you believe in. Whether it’s to help the Haitians get on their feet or to give toward the rebuilding of New Orleans, give a decent chunk of change to assuage your conscience. Will it help? It will definitely make a positive difference to someone, perhaps to you as well.

* Recognize within yourself, “I’m donating this money to show I am still a decent human being, even though I made a grievous error.”

9. See a therapist or counselor. If you feel you’re going to explode from the weight of your error, it might be time to talk to a professional about it. Therapists are required to respect your confidentiality within limits as specified by your state. You’ll be amazed at how good it feels to say out loud what you did.

* A therapist can assist you in coping better with your feelings, learning to leave the mistake behind you, and become a better person for it.

Coping successfully with a guilty conscience will take some time and diligence on your part. Set to work applying the above strategies. You’ll be glad you did!

My income is constantly increasing.

Each month, my income increases. I have a seemingly endless number of options to earn more money. I know I can always find or create more income with a minimal amount of effort.

My subconscious is constantly scanning for new moneymaking opportunities. These new opportunities seem to just pop-up spontaneously. I am grateful that my mind is so in tune with creating wealth.

My bills are becoming easier and easier to pay. Every month, I am able to save more money. My investments and net worth are increasing nicely. I smile when I think about how soon I can retire.

I consider myself to be a wealth magnet. Money and moneymaking assets are drawn to me like moths to a flame. I can feel abundance flowing to me.

I track my monthly income and find it increases regularly. When I notice an increase in my income, I congratulate myself. I am thankful for all I have and all that is coming to me.

I am responsible with my new level of income. I invest wisely and only make necessary purchases. My investments provide ever-increasing streams of income. I want to be able to live exclusively off these passive income streams.

Today, I scan my surroundings for new income opportunities. I am committed to finding at least one new source of easy income to maintain this joyful trend of ever-increasing income.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How much income do I wish to eventually create?
2. How many sources of income do I currently have?
3. How can I create a new source of income or generate more income from a current source?

Life Coaching Lessons # 17 – Exercise Your Mind by Opening Up to Learning

If you think you’ll reach an age in life when you don’t have to learn anything new anymore, you’ll miss out on many enriching experiences.

It’s true that most of us finish high school or maybe even college and feel like we’re tired of taking in new information. We just don’t want to learn anymore.

However, aging experts insist that learning something new keeps our minds and mental health in better shape than not taking in new info. Maybe you get home after work and think, “I’m too tired to do anymore thinking today.” You might be pleasantly surprised at how you can rest some areas of your mind while giving other areas a good work-out!

Consider these ideas:

1. Read something. The best way to absorb new information is to read. You’re likely surrounded by reading material. Your daily newspaper, magazines received in the mail, or pamphlets you pick up at the doctor’s office can provide your brain with new stuff to ponder.

2. Dive into a topic. Pursuing a subject you’re interested in is the most fun way to learn. If you always wanted to know about birds and bird-watching, check out the subjects on the internet. Better yet, purchase a good book about it, maybe The Audubon Society Field Guide to North American Birds.

* When it’s a subject you’re interested in, you’ll be endlessly fascinated by the new facts you learn. You’ll be intrinsically motivated to read more and more about your favored subject. As you consistently seek new information to learn, your mind will stay active and work well for you.

3. Listen to books on audio. If you don’t claim to be an avid reader, then have books read to you! After all, who doesn’t love a good story? Expand your repertoire through listening to audio books. They’re free from your library and can be loaned to you at no cost online.

4. Work crossword puzzles. If you’re an avid puzzler, you know how much you learn when you work your daily crossword. To be a good crossword puzzle worker, have a dictionary handy at all times. You’ll be looking up plenty of new words and learning them. What a fun way to keep learning all your life!

5. Join a club. Find a club that focuses on a subject in which you’re already interested. So, if you’ve always wanted to know more about woodworking, join the local woodworking group. You’ll learn by observing and also by doing. Plus, you’ll have a beautiful piece of work to admire when you finish a project.

6. Get out more. When you’re relating with others, you gain new knowledge. And you discover and experience new things. Make it a point to get out and about at least weekly.

7. Go window-shopping. It’s not spending money that expands your mind; it’s going in the stores and exploring what’s new. New items are being invented every day. You’ve probably never thought of window-shopping as a learning exploration, but at the rate technology is growing these days, it is.

8. Play video games. Even video games can help you sharpen your attention span, memory, and increase learning. Trivia games like Jeopardy or those that simply ask questions and then reveal the correct response keep your mind sharp. Find educational video games to suit your interests.

9. Explore educational software. From Rosetta Stone, which teaches you to speak different languages, to National Geographic’s Explorer 3D, that provides 3D maps of national parks, what you can learn at home on your computer with a good software program is pretty much unlimited. What a beautiful work-out for your mind!

Make it your personal mantra to never stop learning. It’s fun, it will keep your mind working, and you’ll never run out of fodder for interesting conversation. Put the above strategies to work now and continue to expand your mind. Stay open to the wonders of learning for the rest of your life. You’ll enjoy the results!

I am happy with who I am.

Life is good. I engage in the kind of work I choose. I relish in opportunities to spend time with the people I love. Each day seems like a new beginning for me. Of course, I realize that my life is less than perfect at times. Yet, even when situations occur that are out of my control, I am truly pleased to be me.

I actively work to accept my strengths and idiosyncrasies. I realize I am much more than my level of achievement at work or the number of personal relationships I have.

I am unique and worthy. I am loved by my friends and family members. It is a comforting feeling to know that I am pleased with everything about myself.

Even though I experience situations when I stumble, ultimately, I recover from every taxing situation that comes along.

Being happy with who I am means I am consistently flexible in life. Regardless of what happens to me, I successfully deal with it – I make it through. My self-confidence shines.

When people ask me about my secret to life, I tell them there is no secret. I share that I simply pursue whatever it is that is important to me. And that I take personal responsibility to live in ways that are productive, calm, and pleasing.

Today, I intend to write down all of the reasons I am happy with being me. I can rejoice in the knowledge of all the characteristics I love about myself. I feel blessed to be me.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I truly happy with who I am?
2. What are the characteristics I love about myself?
3. What can I do to strengthen my self-confidence?

Life Coaching Lessons # 18 – Eliminate All But The Essentials: A Guide to De-Cluttering Your Life

If you have an endless list of tasks that need to be done, and most of us do, it can be overwhelming. The list just gets longer and longer each day because you can’t get today’s list completed, and more tasks just keep coming at you.

If you can pare your list of to-dos down the most important tasks, you can keep your planning and time management system simple. A simple list of the 3-5 most important things is all that nearly anyone needs to be very effective and successful.

Follow these steps to manage your time and make success your reality:

1. Get rid of the extra stuff in your life. Unless you live like a monk, you have more stuff than you need or use. If it’s not important to your life, consider getting rid of it. You spend a lot of time and money on those things that provide minimal value. Eliminate the clutter in your life and you eliminate a lot of the clutter in your mind.

2. Eliminate the trivial. Start by making a list of everything that you feel you need to get done. Cut the list in half. Don’t worry; you can come back to those items later. Now go through the same process and cut the list in half again.

3. Review your goals. What have goals got to do with eliminating all but the essential? Reviewing your goals allows you to see what tasks are most essential. Assuming that your goals are very important to you, they provide an excellent tool to evaluate which tasks are the most important to you.

4. Be aware of what’s essential. The essential things are those that support your goals. Pay your bills on time, work toward your goals, and take care of yourself and your family. Life is short; spend it on the most important stuff.

5. Evaluate your other commitments. Is the weekly poker game worth it? Golf every Wednesday? Clubs, charities, committees, and more all take time. Eliminate the extra activities that mean the least to you. This includes all the people in your life, too. Some people you’re stuck with, others are optional.

6. Minimize your sources of information. We all spend too much time receiving information and too little time doing worthwhile tasks. Cut back on TV, newspapers, browsing the Internet, email, Twitter, and Facebook. It’s largely wasted time that could be better spent.

7. Review your list regularly. Periodically, take a look at your list of things to do and go back through the elimination process. Don’t worry about the stuff that gets axed. If it’s important, it will come back around after the really important stuff gets done.

* We have a tendency to do the things that are the easiest; what’s important is to do the critical few items each day.

* Simply ask yourself what the advantage is to getting an item done and what is the disadvantage to not getting it done. Don’t choose tasks based on what is the quickest or most enjoyable; that’s what average people do. Be exceptional and do the most important items.

* If you spend all day on important tasks, your life will be remarkable.

Life doesn’t have to be an endless list of obligations. The key is to recognize that only the most important tasks really matter. When you can see that, you feel free to start chopping obligations.

Most of us major in minor things. Focus on the most important stuff and feel comfortable letting the rest slide. You’ll have more free time and your life will change for the better.

I avoid blaming others for my choices.

I make all kinds of choices each day. What to eat, how to discipline the children, and when to leave for work are just some of the options I deal with on a daily basis. Even though I might make less than the best decisions, I avoid blaming others for my choices.

I fully recognize that what I decide to do springs from my own beliefs, thoughts, and feelings.

I base my choices on my best guess of what I should do. I accept the consequences of my choices. Since I am the only one responsible for my decisions, it seems unnecessary to try to blame others for the choices I select.

It pleases me to know I stand up and claim my own decisions. I stand behind what I choose.

I feel confident when it comes to selecting what I want to do in a particular situation. I choose what appears to be the right choice for me and then I always make it through whatever happens.

I gain courage from my daily experiences and that courage helps me see my way through without blaming others.

Today, I make it a point to notice when I feel like blaming others. I keep watch to see in which situations I tend to want to blame someone else. I pledge to take all steps possible to refrain from blaming others for options I select in life.

I know I can live a life filled with tranquility and satisfaction as long as I take responsibility for my own choices.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I careful to avoid blaming others for my decisions?
2. In what situations do I blame others for my own choices?
3. How can I prevent myself from blaming someone else for my decisions?

Life Coaching Lessons # 19 – Practical Advice To Be More Present

A great skill to learn is that of being more present. Being present is simply being focused on your environment and your current task. It means that your mind isn’t thinking about anything else other than what is right in front of you.

There are so many great benefits that come from being present in the moment. For example, it’s relaxing! It’s about the only time your brain isn’t buzzing along thinking about 20 different things. You get to actually live your life, as opposed to either thinking about the past or the future. And you’re far more productive, too.

These techniques can help you live more fully in the present:

1. Pay attention to what is going on around you. If you’re not actively engaged in doing something productive, take a good look at what’s going on around you. Suppose you’re taking a walk. Notice everything: the cars driving by, the trees blowing in the wind, various animals scurrying around, the clouds, and more. See everything.

* Listen to everything. What can you hear? How many different sounds can you pick out?

* What can you feel? The warm air moving across your arm? A sore foot? The ground beneath your feet? Your cold hands?

* What can you smell?

* In general, if you’re not really doing something then you should be focused on your surroundings. Because, at that moment, that’s your life.

2. Focus on your current task. If you’re mowing the grass, focus on mowing the grass. If you’re writing a report, focus on writing the report. Your mind should stay on task. It takes practice to do it reasonably well, so practice all the time. When you start thinking about something else, gently come back to the task and let go of your previous thought.

* You’ll get so much more accomplished when you’re focused on your task. You’ll also eliminate worry and stress. How can you be stressed if you’re only thinking about what is in front of you? There’s no room for stress.

3. If you’re having a hard time focusing on your work or environment, focus on your breathing. Your breath is like a constant in the universe; it’s always with you. It also helps to get your brain and body in sync. Focus on your breathing and don’t let your mind wander. When it does wander, gently bring it back to your breath.

* After 10-15 minutes, you should be ready to transition to focusing on something else.

4. Practice all the time. Make a game out of it. See if you can wash the dishes without thinking one stray thought; even thinking about how glad you’ll be when it’s done would be a stray thought. Do this with everything that you do, all day long.

5. At night, focus on your breathing. Lying in bed is a great opportunity for most people to get themselves all worked up. We think about how horrible work was or about how we have so much to do tomorrow. None of this has ever helped anyone. Focus on your breathing until you fall asleep.

Make the effort to be more present. You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel and how much more you can get done. It’s not easy at first. Think of it as exercise for your brain. With practice, you’ll get a little better each day. Keep at it; the rewards are worth it!

My work is enjoyable and fulfilling.

I realize how important it is to have enjoyable and fulfilling work. I am able to give my greatest gifts, in the best way possible, when I am both happy and fulfilled.

My work makes me happy for several reasons. I am doing something every day that I find meaningful. I like the feeling of contributing something positive on a daily basis. I enjoy my coworkers and work environment. My work is stimulating and I am very good at it.

There are also many reasons that I find my work fulfilling.

My contribution is meaningful to my company.

The company I work for is meaningful to the world.

And knowing that I am contributing to something bigger through my work is important to me.

If my job ceases to be enjoyable and fulfilling, I simply find a new job that creates those feelings in me again. I know I can find the right job for me both quickly and easily.

I am clear on my likes, dislikes and values; with these things in mind, finding the right job is easy.

Today, I appreciate having such an enjoyable and fulfilling career. I love my work and it fills me with appreciation and enjoyment. I feel so fortunate to be blessed with a job that benefits me so greatly.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What 5 characteristics do I love about my work?
2. What 5 things would I like to change about my work? How can I make these changes?
3. In what ways do I find my work to be meaningful?

Life Coaching Lessons # 20 – Steer Your Career in a Clear and Positive Direction

Your career is like a ship and you’re the captain. You can drift along or take command to guide it in a clear and positive direction. These are some suggestions for setting your course and sticking to it so you so wind up where you want to go.

Setting a Course for Your Career

1. Conduct a thorough self assessment. Think about your interests and skills. Consider what you’re good at and what you like doing. Maybe you like working independently or perform best when you’re part of a team.

2. Research your options. Once you know what you want to do, look for occupations that match up with the profile you’ve created. You will probably find a number of choices. A love for teaching could lead you into academia or corporate training. Consult occupational directories or ask a librarian for assistance.

3. Take career tests. Career testing is one way to get a better picture of your abilities. You can find many free programs online to get started. University campus career centers offer a variety of services or can guide you to other local resources.

4. Interview people. Talk to people who are already working in your chosen field. They can share their first-hand experience and provide more perspective on the necessary qualifications, typical responsibilities, and employment prospects.

5. Focus on priorities. Many people discover that they have multiple interests which may change over the years. Try narrowing your list down to three top priorities at a time to keep things manageable.

6. Put your plan in writing. Make a written record of your goals and the steps you need to take to reach them. It will help you to chart your progress and spot areas where you need to do more work.

Sticking to Your Career Route

1. Perform regular evaluations. This can be a lifelong project. One good habit is to update your resume at least every six months. Use that time to analyze if you’re headed in the right direction or need to make adjustments.

2. Take on new responsibilities in your current position. Wherever you’re currently working, you can look for opportunities to grow. Give your supervisor a proposal asking to take on a new assignment.

3. Keep looking ahead. Set both short term and long term goals. You may decide to attend three networking events in the next six months and get a more senior position within two years.

4. Continue your training. Take advantage of opportunities to get more training and education. Some employers offer in-house programs or cover the costs for job-related courses.

5. Find a coach. You might find it helpful to work with a career coach. This could be a paid professional or a supervisor or colleague willing to play that role.

6. Do volunteer work. Volunteering is always a great way to give back to your community while broadening your experience. Find an organization you want to support and pick a project you want to learn more about, like accounting or events management.

7. Develop a side job. Turn your hobby into an additional source of revenue. Over time, it may grow into a full time job doing what you love.

8. Be proactive. Above all, take the initiative to figure out what kind of work will be fulfilling for you. Aiming for something you care about will keep you motivated and diligent.

Imagine looking back on your career with the satisfaction of accomplishing your goals and making a difference in the world. Planning ahead and making the necessary mid-course corrections will put you in charge and make your work more rewarding.

I choose thoughts that nourish and support me.

I understand that my thoughts control my actions, and my actions ultimately determine my life. Therefore, I choose to have thoughts that are beneficial to me.

My thoughts are one of the few things that I alone control. I understand the harmful impact of negative thoughts and acknowledge my responsibility in this respect. I am in control, so I banish negative thoughts as soon as they make themselves heard.

I start my day by focusing on positive thoughts before I even get out of bed.

By flooding my mind with supportive and nourishing thoughts, I help to guarantee a great and productive day.

On the drive to work, I remind myself of the benefits of my job. At work, it is sometimes challenging to keep my thoughts positive, but I am able to focus and stay optimistic. I am lucky to have my job, so this is quite easy most of the time.

On the way home, I think how wonderful it is to have such a great family and friends. They are a gift. I find it easy to feel thankful for this gift and use this gratitude to foster continuing positive thoughts at home.

Today, I acknowledge that my life is a reflection of my thoughts, so I choose thoughts that nourish and support me. Since the ultimate outcome of my day is really up to me, I opt to make it an awesome day!

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are 5 recurring negative thoughts that I can eliminate from my life?
2. What 5 new thoughts would support my desired lifestyle?
3. How can I remind myself to substitute positive thoughts for negative ones on a daily basis?

I learn from my mistakes.

I live life each day with the knowledge that I make errors. I fully accept there are times when I do things incorrectly. I might choose one thing when another is the better choice. Or I make an impromptu decision that may later prove to be less than the best option for me.

Even though I am less than perfect, I learn from my mistakes in order to live the good life I deserve.

I approach mistakes with an open mind and heart. Because I want to figure out the errors of my ways, I evaluate how I make each mistake and then examine the consequences of that decision.

I ask myself, “What new knowledge do I have from this error? How can I use this knowledge now?”

Although each step in this process is important, the most important aspect of my evaluation is figuring out what I learn. Realizing the lessons from my errors is a rewarding part of my day.

Today, if I make a mistake, I can diligently acknowledge the wrongdoing, evaluate the situation, and extract new knowledge from it. My life is enriched whenever I glean new information from my mistakes.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I make it a point to learn something from my mistakes?
2. What are some valuable lessons I have learned from past errors in my life?
3. How can I keep my mind open to accepting my mistakes and learning from them?

Life Coaching Lessons # 21 – 4 Secrets to Happiness

Most people think they would be happy if they had more “stuff” or more money. A better car or a better house sounds pretty good to most people. But more money and “things” don’t necessarily make you happier.

Having a car might make it easier to be happy if it means you don’t have to walk everywhere. Having more money can make it easier to be happy if you currently can’t pay all your bills. So these things can remove some of the obstacles to being happy, but they don’t really provide happiness.

There are four things that do bring happiness, and the best part is that they’re free!

Consider these ideas:

1. Someone to love. Everyone needs someone to love. If you don’t think you have someone to love, go find someone. The world is full of people that feel unloved so it shouldn’t take you too long to find a volunteer. We all need someone to cherish and care for.

* Fortunately, the people and animals we genuinely love tend to love us back.

2. Something to do. There are plenty of wealthy people that are miserable because they don’t spend their time doing something that they love. Life is about doing and experiencing things. If you spend all day doing stuff you love to do, it’s pretty difficult to be unhappy.

* Find ways to spend your time in activities that are meaningful to you. Make a list and start incorporating those things into your life on a daily basis. If you can find work that you’re passionate about, so much the better for you!

3. Something to look forward to. If the only thing you have to look forward to is more of the same, boring routine, it’s difficult to be happy. Everyone should have something to look forward to in the near future.

* Think about something you’d really like to do or see. Maybe it could be something as simple as a yoga class. If you love going to yoga on Thursday nights, it can make your Mondays a little easier when you know that yoga is looming in your future.

4. Using downtime joyfully. Perhaps your biggest challenge is dealing with downtime. When you’re bored, lonely, anxious, or sad and don’t have something to do, it’s easy to resort to less than ideal behaviors. These behaviors not only accomplish nothing positive, but they can also make your life more challenging.

* This would include things like watching TV, surfing the internet, eating when you aren’t hungry, shopping for stuff you don’t really want or need, drinking, drugs, serial dating, and more. These behaviors do nothing to solve the underlying issue and can create more difficulties.

* Coping with negative feelings effectively makes life much easier. Read something worthwhile, go for a jog, meet up with a friend and do something fun, make a new friend, or work on a hobby. Substitute you’re negative habits with new, more beneficial habits that bring you closer to the good life you imagine for you and your family.

* Learn to take a moment and pause before you go on autopilot. If you’re going for the fridge and you’re not hungry, simply STOP. Ask yourself why you’re doing this and what other action you could take.

If you think you’re unhappy because you don’t have enough money or toys, you’re probably mistaken.

Having meaningful relationships, something to do, something to look forward to, and not shooting yourself in the foot are the keys. Find ways to incorporate these ideas into your life and you’ll be much happier!

My relationships are loving and harmonious.

Healthy relationships are an integral part of a happy and meaningful life.

I am fortunate that my relationships are loving and harmonious. I strive to strengthen my relationships each day and value the wonderful benefits they bring to my life.

My ability to have good relationships grows every day. I learn more about others and myself and use that knowledge to attract positive people into my life. I know how to make good relationships work. I also know when to let go of toxic relationships. I am strong enough to do what is best for me.

I find it easy to have loving and harmonious relationships because I have everyone’s best interest at heart. I care about others and they care about me. My caring nature helps to assure that my relationships are strong and healthy.

Others notice the strength of my relationships and are quietly envious of my social network. My network supports me and gives me strength in all areas of my life.

When I need help to make a relationship work, I seek the expert support and guidance that I require. I am strong enough to do this. I give myself a pat on the back when I take action to get the help I need.

Today, I choose to work on my most challenging relationship. I know I can find a way to make it more harmonious. Today is a great day to forge a loving and harmonious relationship and I look forward to accomplishing this.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are the common characteristics of my best relationships?
2. What are the common characteristics of my most challenging relationships?
3. Do I make it a point to seek relationships with positive people?

I live life according to my values.

I feel blessed because I decide for myself the values that I believe are important and how I spend my time is reflective of these beliefs. I am thankful for my many opportunities to express my values every day.

The words I use and the people I choose to interact with in my personal time show the world my own personal “rules” that I live by.

My manners, religion, and the activities I take part in demonstrate the beliefs that matter to me.

My actions are infused with my morals and values. As I look at my daily life, I see representations of my internal rules everywhere. I have pride in the fact that my values are strong, clear, and obvious to both others and myself.

I demonstrate politeness to others. I think before I speak. I hold my tongue when I believe it is the best thing to do. I follow the “golden rule.” I inform others who are affected when I make a mistake and take immediate action to correct it.

It is quite clear to me what my values are. And I make those values clear to others through my daily actions.

Today, my life is wonderful because I live it with my values in mind and show my beliefs to others through my daily choices.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Are my values clear to me? What are they?
2. Can others determine what my personal “rules” are simply by observing my daily behaviors and choices?
3. How important is it to me that I live life according to my values?

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